Have you ever been asked this question by a friend or family or someone that looks up to you? Have someone ever asked you to validate a decision that had been made whether it’s the right or wrong choice? I’ve been asked too, and I’ve asked myself countless times too if indeed I made the right decision by snubbing an offer, accepting a job, letting things go, etc.
However, I’ve come to realize that good and bad are two sides of the same coin, and whenever we make a decision, we consider our choices to be the right one if the effects of such a decision we’ve made turn out to be our perceived good side of the coin.
We consider such choices to be a bad one or the wrong one when the resultant effect is our perceived bad side of the coin. All this is deeply rooted in our self-cherishing mind. This article on how the judgment of what is good or bad leads to suffering will buttress the point I’m trying to make.
When we feel good about something, or happy about something, we seldom fail to consider that if we are dealt with the good side of the coin, someone or something is at the receiving end of the other side of the coin.
I’ve seen people rejoice that God did something great for them. They are happy because they’ve judged this situation as good, but I’m learning to ponder these days who or what is at the receiving end of the bad side of our decisions or of our joy and happiness. My understanding of these two sides of the coin has helped me strike a more balanced outlook on life and help me cherish others.
With this said, I know it’s hard, but I’m trying my best to not judge a decision as either good or bad. I do my best to live my life and make my decisions based on the principles of altruism that flows from virtuous thoughts. I know that I may do all my best to live rightly, abiding by godly principles, but it’s not a guarantee that the effects of my decisions would be termed good or bad in the short run for me or others. However, in the long run, I have faith and hope that it’ll all work out for good.
Paul was noted to write in Romans 8:28 that “all things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to his purpose.” I want to believe that good in this verse isn’t used as the opposite of bad, but rather a state that does not see with the eyes that judges all things as either good or bad but rather with the eyes that are devoid of such a judgment knowing that whatever happens was meant to happen.
Rather than judging our actions or decisions as right or wrong, I hope we can do our best to live based on the right convictions, and not get carried away by the mental and humanistic definitions of what’s good or bad. For I know that if we set our heart to live rightly and led by the Spirit of God and godly principles; with love and compassion in our hearts, all things work together for good. Some situations may occur that others may term as bad, or terrible or even rue its occurrences, but we’ll know in our hearts that no matter what happens, it’s still all good.